So, if you’ve been living on planet earth for the bulk of your life, you’ve probably heard the one about . . .
“Don’t say ‘but’ because it negates everything that you said before it”
Example: “Ozzy I think you had some righteous tunes over the last few decades, but . . “
In other words “Ozzy, I really didn’t mean that remark about righteous tunes because this next statement is really the truthful one. Oh and brace yourself rocker because its gonna be a groin kick!”
OK, so now that we got the group “Duh Paul” out of the way . . . what’s an aspiring rock star to do?
Glad you asked!
1) Don’t hide your “but” by using the word “however”. However is basically a “but” with a nicer ass . . . YOU for thinking you didn’t just negate everything with that “however” you just wielded!
2) Consider pausing between acknowledgment and counterpoint: “Ozzy I think you had some righteous tunes over the last few decades (pause) I just think biting a head off a Bat is a poor dietary choice” I think that’s something even Ozzy could sink his teeth into!
3) Consider pausing and having a “challenge” “Ozzy I think you had some righteous tunes over the last few decades (pause) the challenge I have is that when you bite heads off of Bats it upsets the delicate ecosystem here in NY . . . where Bats play such a vital role”
So next time you find yourself in disagreement . . . do it more agreeably by having a nicer “BUT”
Paul Castain coaches aspiring sales rock stars to new levels of sales rock stardom. Click HERE if you’re ready to turn your amp up to 11 and be heard!