I Was At The End Of My Rope

by Paul Castain on November 9, 2012


Photo credit: Cheezburger.com

I feel like I’ve begun many of my blog posts with the same line (I’ll eventually think of a new one) but . . .

We’re all moving light speed these days!

Sometimes we assume a friend, a coworker, a family member or even that person sitting next to us doesn’t have their fair share of challenges.

Its hard to see it because we can all be rather self absorbed . . .

In our own struggles!

I’ll never forget that morning,  in January 2011, when I walked into a local sit down deli without a smile and the weight of the world on my shoulders!

My wife was having breast cancer surgery and I had a million thoughts running through my head . . . I was scared!

A stranger sitting across the table attempted to make conversation with me and I politely gave him one word answers.

I just wasn’t in the mood but he persisted and soon we were engaged in a discussion about music. I soon learned that he was also a musician.

It was an awesome conversation and most of all . . . it helped me forget about things for a while and lift my spirits!

We shook hands at the end of the chat and went back to our busy lives but . . .

This person will never know how lost I was when I walked into that place.

When you see someone who looked like I did that day, its easy to see that someone is struggling. I wasn’t wearing it very well!

How about the ones who wear a smile well but meanwhile they’re struggling?

Perhaps a more important question is . . .

Will we jump off our own treadmill long enough to be human?

Today, each of us could easily give someone hope, restore their faith and maybe even save a life.

Yes, we’re all sales people, business owners, executives and aspiring rock stars in our own right but . . .

We’re also sons, daughters, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, neighbors and friends!

Sometimes we forget . . . I know I do!

  • http://www.facebook.com/kevin.p.keane Kevin P. Keane

    Beautifully said Paul, thank you for you awesome human-ity.

  • http://yoursalesplaybook.com paulcastain

    Thank YOU Kevin!

  • Tim Rethlake

    Well penned Paul. I often find myself saying this prayer: “Lord, slow me down today.” When I force myself into “slo mo” throughout the day, I become a better listener and more aware of other people’s vibes. My most impactful interactions have come at those moments.

  • http://yoursalesplaybook.com paulcastain

    Valuable advice Tim!
    I think I’ll borrow that one going forward!
    Thank you!

  • Anonymous

    Great post Paul. Very relevant and important to remember. I’m glad I read this on the beginning of the week as I need to remind myself after the weekend. It is also important to note how helping someone makes US feel. Though it may sound selfish, when you suggest to someone to help someone else, often times they think, “what’s in it for me?”… I know that concentrating on someone else’s problems allows me to take the focus off of me and get out of my head… and I nearly always feel infinitely better. Again, gr8 post.- MJ

  • http://yoursalesplaybook.com paulcastain

    Thank you MJ and you’re absolutely right about how it makes us feel.

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