When you read that title did you have a flashback to that scene in “Tommy Boy” when Tommy who was quite a large dude, puts on Richard’s (who was quite the skinny dude) coat and starts singing “Fat guy in a little coat” and then accidentally rips the jacket.
It’s a funny scene but not so funny when you realize situations where you’ve been the “Fat guy in a little coat” by doing things that just don’t fit you.
Some examples . . .
Working off a phone script that doesn’t pass “The Kitchen Table Test”. In other words, its salesy, marketing speak that you would never say to someone if you were sitting at the kitchen table together having a conversation. I know people like to counter the whole “I don’t dig phone scripts” thing with “But actors work off a script” but I say “Back up and say it again dude. ACTORS work off a script. I’m not an actor and I can’t act like I agree with your argument”
How about acting overly formal when you’re more of a laid back person? There’s that “fat guy/little coat” thing again.
I’ve seen other people who like to pretend to be “call it like I see it” types. I watched a few of them really turn up their message to the point where they’re dropping “F” bombs on their blog.
As you all know, I’m no prude when it comes to getting colorful with language and if someone is truly an “F” bomb type then go for it (knowing of course, that you are going to offend) but when you try and pretend to be this tough, “F” bombing type when you’re really a lightweight, you need need to get your fat ass out of that “little coat”
Same thing goes for those who are doing it for shock value.
Years ago, I worked with a group of people who made fun of my New York accent. I tried real hard to speak without it but that damn accent follows me around like a shadow. The result was this really awkward hybrid accent thing that just didn’t sound right. I was being the “fat guy in a little coat” until I made a note to give a damn what others thought.
Note: I have one major regret in my life. My regret is that it took me the bulk of my adult life to get to a point that I could give myself permission to simply be Paul Castain.
Forgive me for being a tad arrogant but I really like who I am and if you don’t, that’s OK too but let me check something really quick, hold on . . .
Sorry about that, I just checked and yep . . . I still don’t care.
Be who you really are
Celebrate who you really are
Make no apologies for who you really are (unless of course, you’re being a jerk about it) but . . .
When you embrace messaging that really isn’t YOU, you’re going to be as uncomfortable as that “Fat guy in a little coat” and I’m willing to bet that the recipient of your message will sniff it out inside of a few seconds!
So where do you stand?
Where do you stand on this idea that we can become the “fat guy in a little coat” Please scroll down and share your thoughts!
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